Am I wrong for "calling out" my friends boyfriend?
I'm(25f) tall for a woman. I'm 5'10. My fiance(23m) is a little taller than me. He's 6'1. I've been in 2 relationships before I met my fiance and he's the first guy I've been with that's taller than me(one was 5'8, the other was 5'10). I don't care about height. Do I have a preference? Yeah. Does it matter? No, not really. What I'm trying to say is that height doesn't matter to me. I'm with my fiance because I love him, not because he's taller than me. We've been together for 5 years and our heights rarely come up.
My friend(25f) just started dating a guy(29m) and he seemed nice when I first met him (I'm not sure if this matters, but he's close to my height. I'd say 5'9 if I were to guess) although when he met my fiance, he started making comments about women always wanting taller men and how tall women should give shorter guys a chance. It's been really annoying, but every time I bring it up to him, he gets defensive and claims he's joking.
A couple of friends and I were hanging out yesterday and my fiance was there. My friends boyfriend was there too. He kept making comments throughout the day about women not giving shorter guys a chance. He said that tall women should give shorter guys a chance and I had enough. I asked if he could please stop making comments like that. He claimed he was joking and I said "joking or not, can you please stop?" He got all mad and stormed off. We gave my friend a ride home and I apologized to her on the way and she said it wasn't my fault.
My friend texted our group chat today, saying that her boyfriend wanted me to apologize to him for "calling him out." I dont want to apologize because I didn't think I i was rude. My friends mostly agree with me, but a couple think I should apologize to keep the peace.
Am I wrong for "calling out" my friends boyfriend?
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This tale from u/Hersheyskiss0 is very sensitive from multiple perspectives. I think taller girls are sensitive to their heights as well as all the short kings out there. I think I’m technically one lol. It’s pretty obnoxious for friend’s boyfriend to be bashing tall women of which OP is technically one. Is he not happy in his relationship? Clearly he’s been wronged in the past. My take is that she’s not in the wrong, it’s obnoxious for the guy to be making comments you’re sensitive about all day, and she was pretty respectful doing it.
What’s your take?
