"We listen and we don't judge" trend prompted my (24f) husband (38m) to reveal a cruel two year long "prank". How can I learn to start trusting him again?
My husband saw TikTok videos this week about couples saying "we listen and we don't judge", then revealing something bad or funny they do behind their partner's back. He pressured me to participate because he said he had something very funny to admit, but I had to go first to justify his.
When it was his turn, he told me he removed(?) things from my computer to make it very slow and almost unusable... Two years ago. In 2022, my computer suddenly started running like garbage and I could never figure out what was wrong. I primarily used it for school and playing online games with my siblings because I don't live close to them anymore. Now I can hardly browse the Internet, let alone play games on it. I couldnt afford a new computer because only I am working right now. He told me it would take him only a minute or two to fix whatever it is he did, but he just never wanted to.
When I asked him why he would do that, he said it's because I should spend all my time with him and he didn't like that I would play games a few times a week. My feelings are very hurt right now, and I'm having a hard time believing anything he says now. How can I get my mind off this and stop distrusting him? We have been married for 6 years and I'm so stressed about what other things he might have done to manipulate me. How do people generally get over betrayals of trust like this?
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This tale from u/ThrowRA4668765 is really sad. OP’s husband has exhibited extreme manipulation over her. Not to mention the fact he is not working, being supported by OP, and trying to control her all at the same time. Not only is he selfish and essentially demanding he spend time with him more, but also depriving her of the things that bring her joy, making her essentially someone he’s trying to bend to his will. This is disgusting, and I wouldn’t recommend OP even try to trust him again.
What’s your take?
